Why the Hell Bother at All?

Dating a waste of time after 60

Of course "dating" sucks after age 60.  Why the hell would anybody bother to do it at all?  One doesn't have the luxury of time anymore.  Not only that, but who wants to play the stupid games you have to play to "attract" somebody?  For women, it costs a fortune to buy clothes, makeup, and all the other shit men demand women get in order to satisfy the male fetish of "femininity."  It isn't just transvestites who obsess over the femininity crap; most straight men also have a femininity fetish--for women.  That is because most men "other" women regarding them as inferiors to them, and they want to make sure women fit in a certain box in order for these men to understand they are NOT "the other."  Many men are also completely fucked-up with porn, especially men under 40.  I would NOT want to be a young woman in the dating market today.

Getting back to the topic.  Women, especially those who have been married a long time and then find themselves "single" in mid or later life, have a hard time facing reality.  They have been socialized so much to think their sole purpose in life is to be a caregiver for a husband and kids, plus they have gotten addicted to the much-higher standard of living, that they find it hard to grow the fuck up and give up the Prince Charming horseshit.  You can see some women are still desperate for a relationship with a dude and go to dating "coaches," wasting hundreds if not thousands of dollars for "advice" they would get if they got some dogeared self-help book from the 1970s at a secondhand bookstore.  Many of these "coaches" are worse than useless.  I used to subscribe to one of them on YouTube for about a year until I was weary of the same old nonsense she was peddling.  She is one of these New Age-type women who thinks women can find their "soulmate" "at any age" if they only work on themselves and make themselves desirable.  She claims her program is "positive"; in reality, it is anything BUT positive.  When people believe in the b.s. of "the law of attraction," then you know these are the people to avoid.  New Age thinking is rife with this, and it is destructive because in the end, it is all about blaming the person if that person is poor, is sick, or doesn't have a soulmate.

It is all garbage.  The REAL problem women face in dating past 60 isn't that the men are chasing younger women--that is baloney.  Few younger--meaning YOUNG women (under 35)--won't have anything to do with these old coots.  What people have to understand is that Hollywood and the celebrity culture pairings are aberrations and aberrant.  Huge age gaps are NOT common and NOT advisable, especially if the woman is the junior partner, for she is going to end up spending her middle years being a caregiver to a sick or dying man.  Who the hell wants that?    The REAL issue with the lack of suitable men is simple demographics.  Men age quicker, get sick earlier, and die sooner than women.  A lot of them, especially those who worked in blue collar fields, are disabled.  Even if the men are healthy and available, many of them don't bother dating at all, preferring to pursue other interests.  Women all too often have not developed themselves fully and have instead oriented their entire lives and interests around relationships.  They need to knock it off and actually get real interests that are not man centered.  This will give them a lot of fulfillment, and women might find they actually have some untapped talent and interests  which would not surface if they were busy taking a ton of HRT (which I am convinced has a lot to do with these desperate women who want to date again) long past when they should, wasting money on "beauty" products and cosmetic surgery, wasting tons of money on clothes, and wasting money on dating coaches.

People of both sexes, grow up and enjoy the time you have left.

From the article:

Even with that assistance, though, many older Baby Boomers aren’t going on many dates. A 2017 study led by Michael Rosenfeld, a social demographer at Stanford University, found that the percentage of single, straight women who met at least one new person for dating or sex in the previous 12 months was about 50 percent for women at age 20, 20 percent at age 40, and only 5 percent at age 65. (The date-finding rates were more consistent over time for the men surveyed.)*

Indeed, the people I spoke with noted that finding someone with whom you’re compatible can be more difficult at their age. Over the years, they told me, they’ve become more “picky,” less willing—or less able—to bend themselves to fit with someone else, as if they’ve already hardened into their permanent selves. Their schedules, habits, and likes and dislikes have all been set for so long. “If you meet in your 20s, you mold yourselves and form together,” said Amy Alexander, a 54-year-old college-admissions coach. “At this age, there’s so much life stuff that’s happened, good and bad. It’s hard to meld with someone.”

More to the point, it is hard to find anybody still alive, especially past 65. I can't begin to tell "you" how many men I went to high school with who are now dead, both married and single. Many of them have died of cancer, and cancer is bad stuff at any age. Those who survive cancer usually have bodies all but destroyed by chemotherapy and especially radiation.

Another reason why "dating" is a waste of time and an exercise in futility.

*--My comment on the statement in the parentheses:  Men are far more likely to lie about how sexually active they are than women.  Let's quit pretending these men are out screwing everything that walks.  No sane woman would want these breeding grounds for disease anyway.  Men just think they HAVE to lie in order to feel "masculine."