Nothing But a Pack of Liars

People lie about it all the time.  Who really gives a shit how often somebody has sex and with whom?

How can these "studies" be remotely accurate?  People have to self-report, and they are simply not going to tell the truth about this topic.  It is impossible to objectively measure this because it is based solely on what people say.

Men especially are horrible liars about sexuality.  There is too much taboo involved if they tell the truth they aren't sexually active at all.  Note how far more men report sexual activity past age 50 than women.  Few men are out poaching much-younger women because very few of the much-younger women want them.  This can only mean men are lying their asses off about their sex lives.

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More Delusional Idiots

The ads from the dudes on the online dating sites aren't any better, but they usually hire somebody who can string along two sentences instead of the lazy shit that happens on Craigslist.

It stands to reason if a guy is at all desirable, he wouldn't need to advertise. Furthermore, the guy is a total asshole if he makes ridiculous demands on women, like this one who obviously has some kind of fetish:

I come to Craigslist from time to time to read a lot of odd stuff I see to get a chuckle. But I find myself curious as to see what type of lady would actually respond. I would imagine that there are other divorced, educated professionals like me reading these postings as well. So I'm thinking why not take a chance. What harm could it do?
What I have learned from reading these posting over the years makes me list out a few ground rules. If you're not willing to send a picture of yourself taken within the last thirty days don't waste your or my time. If you are married, still emotionally attached to another, not truly available please do not reply. If you are currently homeless, out of work, trying to get your children out of foster care, have a serious mental health issue or drug addiction, I send you the best wishes I can offer but please, don't reply. If you are extremely overweight, recently had gastric bypass surgery, lap band surgery or installation of the sleeve, just lost a hundred pounds with another hundred to go, have so much excess skin that we can create a second person out of you then please don't respond. If you are covered in tattoos, piercings and try to act like you are in your teens or twenties please don't reply.
You might read this as being judgmental and get defensive but it's not. I have no problem with anyone who fits in the above category. I have close friends with all of the above. I just know what I am looking for and who I am attracted to. I really don't want to waste your time.
No I don't want anyone perfect. I just want someone who is perfect for me. I have way too much to offer and I'm not willing to settle. I much rather be single than be with someone I'm not one hundred percent interested in. You deserve someone who wants all of you, not just part of you. Also, I am not any of those things listed above either so I want someone comparable to my lifestyle.
I'm a wanting a companion who dresses nice. Who enjoys being a lady. Colors the gray in her hair, likes makeup, perfume, lotion, painted nails. But also be down to earth, approachable, sweet and kind. If you have had a few kids and are self conscious of some sagging and stretched out skin in certain areas please don't worry about that. We all have our battles. I'm far from perfect.
I'm not tall. I'm not thin. I'm not gorgeous. I'm not rich. I am attractive, not a fat lazy slob, very active, kind, caring, loving, honest, monogamous. I'm charming, have a nice sense of humor. I am cultured and educated. I have a secure job and earn a comfortable living. I have no problem making friends or attracting women, I just haven't found the right lady for me so I am trying this to leave no stone unturned.
So if you're not mad at me for being honest about what I am looking for and not looking for then please reply so we can have a dialogue to see if we are a potential fit for one another. The nice weather is around the corner and I would like to have a partner in crime, jk, to enjoy the sunshine with.
Give someone you love a hug today and remind them they are important to you. We all know someone who needs to be reminded of that. Don't wait until it's too late.
Enjoy the rest of your day. Thanks for taking a couple of minutes out of your day to read this.

Sure, you have a lot to offer, you jackass. You wouldn't be running an ad if you did.



Another functional illiterate is desperate for a woman:

LOL normal on cl i dont think so at least i havent found it they run ads either dont answer or there some sex site sign up employee,,i think nev turned em loose and they came here to CL..'if theres a chaance your sincere i will try agian..my name is jim i am 6ft4 195 hazel eyes been divorced 5 yrs have not been with a women in that time..i own a floatinghome in the calif delta,,like fishing darts cards pool sports baseball football racing if someone was here to share it with dining out going to live music in old sac..i am looking for LTR no drama nogames no bs i have been alone long enough and if we talk and connect would you relocate to the delta by *****,,,send a pic if interested thank you jim...jim on google hangout

Thank God I gave that dating shit up a long time ago. It is downright frustrating, even dangerous, now.



Edit: I found this little gem in the "Rants and Raves" section:

To all you married men here in Southern Oregon and parts of Northern Cal.
Instead of always looking for another guy to fuck your ass, becouse it is such a pleasure for you, why don't you buy a strap on dildo and have your wife fuck your ass with that. Just think of all the time you be saving and lesion the chance of getting a STD if you can do this.
I live in Medford for 6 years now and so many men I, thought where totally straight had ask me to
butt fuck them it really do disgust me to no end. I know I am good looking and so many women as well as men have put the moves on me, so I guess you just can't help yourself in asking to have sex with me. I have turned so many men down around here becouse I don't swing that way and by having a guy ask me that ruin good friendships and that is I ever wanted in guys, not sex.
So a good solution to your problem just mite be to find your self a good dildo, so you and your lady can have fun on learning how to use it. Then you can leave me alone.

I hear there are a whole bunch of people in Congress who are willing to do the job. Ask Paul Ryan.

Delusional Dudes

Sometimes for fun I will go to the online dating sites or places like Craigslist just to see "what" is out there.

I am way past my "sell-by" date according to the male sexist assholes who tend to populate these sites looking for somebody to fuck and fuck over.

Anyway, Craigslist had a couple of these delusional guys recently.

Here is one:
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Hi,

I am a nice looking 59 year old man looking for a younger woman for dating and a possible relationship.
As I mentioned below, I've never married and have no children.
I'm also very active and young at heart.
Most women my age are at a different place in their lives and just don't seem compatible.
I love children so please respond whether you have kids or not.

About Me:
I'm always in a good mood and fun to be around. Never married, no children. I love kids even though I have none of my own. I coach baseball and teach golf to kids. Romantic and affectionate, I know how to treat a lady.
I also have a great job that I like.

I do think that an older man has more to offer a lot of the time.
I guess it depends on what a young lady is looking for?

Please send a picture and I will send one in return.

I would really like to hear from you.

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Never grew up obviously because this run-down corpse of a guy has never looked in a mirror for maybe 20 years or else he wouldn't think he was entitled to a "younger woman."


Another one is a semiliterate 70-year-old bodybuilder type with tattoos all over his body who thinks he can actually attract a forty year old. There are pictures of him without his shirt on, with those goddamned disgusting tattoos.

I loathe tattoos on both men and women. He isn't all that in the looks department, either.


The post:

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im *** a personel fitnes trainer rancher and competative powerlifter divorced 2 children not at home i love to hunt and fish and kayak the rogue river not a couch potato i am still competing and won the world championships on nov 5th 2013 in reno im looking for a lifetime comittment i want to get married again looking for small to medium build lady no couch potatoes ages from 40 to 60 check out my profile thanks i love to cook and am exelent at it i dont do fast foods but i do go out to dinner on special times i love going to the movies or watching one at home love to cuddle children are grown now its my time im just a big teddy bear please no fakes or someone from another country or someone on drugs or an x user i have no use for them and please no prostitutes thanks again no scammers please i will not respond sorry for the drug thing but i lost my son *** to a drug overdose in 2003 again please no tweekers and no one still hooked on xs only ladies within 100 miles will i respond 2 im an x navy seal four tours in v n 4 years as an instructor at coronado whare are all the decent ladies plz and you must have a car no more free rides please its time ladies take a chance 40 to 58 please no more scammers please i wont answer my finger is getting tired of deleteing all the scammers ladies stop ok by the way i live in eagle point oregon dont bother if you live i said 100 miles no scammers plz i wont respond i a really good catch just broke the world record on the 27th by 132 lbs in the push pull 682.9 ladies im really tired of being alone and if you just want to hook up thats ok to broke another world record in newport on the 4th

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Even allotting for the probability he was texting his ad, this ad shows an astonishing lack of written communication skills. Does this guy really think he has anything to offer a woman 10 to 30 years his junior? (He actually revised his post down to an upper limit of 58.) Women in that age bracket aren't looking for a guy like him, who could easily drop dead or be physically or mentally incapacitated because of his age.

What this guy wants is a goddamned nurse to take care of him, not a wife or even a sex partner. He reminds me of a guy I once knew who worked for the Joint Chiefs of Staff in Washington, D.C, during the Bush I era. He retired from the military in 1993. Worked with him in a job in the private sector when he came to Reno for a short time. He was a real wingnut, still is, but he was basically a softy underneath all that military facade. He wound up divorced two times, and, six years ago, he married again, to his "true" love (he won't even friend me on Facebook because I guess he is afraid of "temptation" or some stupid thing), a woman who is a pediatric nurse at a military hospital at or near Camp Lejeune, NC, and who is about nine years his junior. Apparently he must have met her when he had started having heart trouble and had to have a stent put in (he later had heart bypass surgery). I thought to my goddamned self, "This guy didn't marry her because she was the 'love of his life' but married her because she is a goddamned nurse, and, being significantly younger, would be around to take care of him when he inevitably gets too many miles and winds up a total physical wreck." Of course the big issue here is why she even bothered with a man like that, knowing he had and has major medical issues.

The kicker is he is only 3 1/2 years older than I am, and I am in far better shape than him and likely his child bride of 56.

The point is these half-dead dudes think they are entitled to women, especially younger women. It is just unbelievable the delusion that goes on with these dudes.

They are the same types that vote for Trump.

More Full of Shit Than a Christmas Goose

These kind of books and articles designed to scare women out of the jobs men "deserve" to have because they are men and potential providers won't have any effect at all because the real problem--if there is indeed a problem--of declining marriage rates can be attributed mostly to a worsening economic climate for both sexes.

Young marriages ala the 1950s, when women were considered "unmarriageable" if they weren't hitched by age 23, aren't coming back to the United States. The economy will not allow it.

Ditto for other parts of the western world. It's all the same thing. Neoliberal economic polices have been catastrophic for individuals and for families.

It sounds as if the author of the recent Men on Strike book just took a look at a few social networking sites with anonymous posters, perused a few equally anonymous MRA/PUA websites, talked to a few guys in real life, and then extrapolated what she heard to apply to the world at large in order to validate her shaky thesis. Hey, twisting what those people have said is a way to get attention from the media and to line her pockets. It also saves on the heavy lifting required in academia to actually do a study on attitudes toward marriage.

It's kind of funny. If this author is to be believed, heterosexual men are "boycotting" marriage while at the same time gays and lesbians are trying to get full rights to marriage.

It's like a gilded cage in a way. Here are all of these people who want to get out of marriage or avoid it while another group is anxious about getting in.

It's all pretty bizarre.

The men supposedly "boycotting" marriage will for the most part eventually change their minds when the right women come along, especially those women who are working so that these men's lifestyles drastically improve thanks to the ability to pool resources.

Single women, especially never-married women, find that living that way is almost a guarantee they will never, ever be able to retire or have to work far longer than married people or even single men given the rampant sexism and ageism of our society. Being single for the vast majority of women is extremely difficult because of the lack of financial resources. It's almost a guarantee for destitution in old age.

It doesn't matter how well you have planned or what career path you take as a single woman. If you get tossed out on your ear in your fifties, lotsa luck ever finding similar work ever again. It's a long, long time before hitting 70, when "experts" say single women should begin taking Social Security. It would be laughable if it weren't so cruel.

The higher standard of living, which also helps in better health since there are more financial resources to get medical care, is the one big advantage to being married. Living with somebody day after day, year after year, decade after decade isn't necessarily better for the psyche, but the obvious perks can't be dismissed.

As the World Turns.

It's all over between the mayor and the reporter:

"They broke up earlier in the fall. They've both moved on. And Antonio is focused on his relationships with his kids," said one person who said he learned about the breakup in October.

The other source -- who described himself as a longtime friend of Villaraigosa's -- said the relationship ended two or possibly three months ago.

"I think it was a tough summer. I think it was hard on his family. And I think he's trying hard to get past everything that was that summer," the friend said.

Like that was ever going to go anywhere after all of the negative publicity.
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And now with one southern California fire now being extinguished, another one takes its place.

I am sure readers will not get my drift.
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Oh, brother, the British tabloids are trying to get Paul McCartney married off even before he gets divorced.
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Somebody has the nerve to ask whether men are necessary.

Unfortunately, the article is rather wishy-washy despite the provocative title.
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